Hardest thing to understand, and put into practice is, if he wants to he will.
What I mean about this is if the guy/girl you are talking to wants to be in your life they will. We have all used The Line. The excuse that we resort to which really means “I am done with you/ you are the back up” in much fewer words. However, no matter how many times we use The Line, we often don’t catch it when it is used on us.
I promise you, chances are the person you are talking to, and have been talking to, did not “forget to call.” (Even if they did forget to call, that means they weren’t thinking about you, don’t you want to be memorable?)
They also weren’t too busy that they couldn’t talk for 5 minutes within that two week period. (They were probably getting busy.) Notice I said two week period, not a day…people get busy for a day or two, even three; however, 14 days is plenty time to fit in a 5 minute conversation.
It is hard to do, but stop making
excuses for the person you are talking to. Think about it this way, you are probably pretty busy too, considering how fast pace our culture is. (If you aren’t, then get busy. No one likes a person that is doing nothing with their life.) I know I am trying to balance being a full-time student at the University of Texas- Austin, an internship at Texas CASA, and a social life. When I finally meet a guy I like I set time aside for them. Regardless of how busy I am. When you meet a guy you really like how bad do you want to hear from them? How many times do you check your phone? Put time aside, cancel plans for them, or text them first. How many things remind you of them?
Don’t you think that you deserve the same from them too?
When your person was hot for you, remember all the cute things they did? Text first, surprises, dates? He went out of his way for you, and chances are he still has that same job, schedule, and hobby that he had when he was doing all those things. Yes the romance dies down and couples move onto a more mature stage, however, don’t be that person who tries to hold on when they are obviously letting go. Don’t miss the signs dude, because there are few things sadder then the person who is holding on by a thin thread.
Trust me, because I have been both the chasee and the chaser.
People, don’t be someones RBI, be their home run.
(In other words, do not be used as a rebound, or a second option, or a backup plan. Be the one they want first, the one that every person works for.)
And if you please, linger a little bit longer with me